Date night

Sometimes my fiance looks up from a book or comes home, and just decides to take me out on a date. Not a “put on your tennis shoes, and let’s go get frozen yogurt and a movie” date. He wants a “let’s get all dressed up and go somewhere we need to hail a cab […]


What is sensuality?

Alejandro and I are long time friends. He’s been photographing me for years. A while back he said I was his muse. I got excited at the thought of being someone’s muse so we shot plenty. Many of the photos are not even published. I’ve watched him grow into an amazing photographer. And I know […]


Bring back our girls!

When I first read the news, I started sobbing immediately. I said, “What type of society do we live in that hundreds young girls get abducted all at once and the world is not rioting and coming together to find them?” I just couldn’t believe this could happen in 2014. I know it happens every […]


The issue of body image

    Now, I like shopping Target for really cute and affordable swimsuits. When I wear them, people usually ask where I get them from, and they’re usually surprised when I tell them. They’re colorful, well made (for the price), and overall attractive. So browsing their website, and seeing how they butchered one of their […]


Nice people hate too

“I hate white people.” He looked at me straight in the eyes and said it without the slightest smile. He said it as if he walks around thinking it all the time. He didn’t flinch nor looked angry. His toned never changed, but the room got a bit chiller. I wasn’t sure how to respond […]

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My dream tea party

My friends know how much I love tea parties. They’ve made fun of me for that, but my favorite women planned a surprise, elaborate tea party last year for me, and that was one of my favorite times ever. I don’t love tea parties because I love tea. Actually, I don’t care much for it. […]


Some life changes

      There are some great changes ahead. I’ve decided to make them, and I’m going for them full force.  I had to lay low for a little bit to put everything into perspective. I’ve been working very hard, but I’m about to start working harder. This time, it won’t be for other people’s […]


Christmas Tree in Harlem

Fiance and I already have a tradition. We get our Christmas Tree in Harlem, right on Frederick Douglas and 121st. Adam is the name of our Christmas Tree guy, and this is his third year selling trees in Harlem. He’s originally from VT, where Fiance is also from. This time around, we decided to spend […]


Being a black woman

Being a black woman is: Beautiful because that’s what all of our varying shades of brown are. Lively because hard-work was instilled in us. Amazing because that’s what our mothers are. Complicated  beyond measure because we deal with so much hardship. Kindly accepting that we are strong. Wonderfully rewarding. Outstanding because we refuse to lower […]

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